Family and Thankfulness

Posted on November 21, 2012


Thanksgiving (USA holiday) is almost here.  This is the time of year we focus a little more on being thankful for what we have.  Beside eating lots of good, home cooked food, we usually get to see family we haven’t seen in a while.  I don’t know about you, but I am very thankful for my family.  I feel like there is a part of me missing when I haven’t seen my family in a while.

My sister and her family just arrived from California for the Thanksgiving holiday.  As we were making breakfast together, we were talking about an Adventist family in North Dakota who just lost their wife/mother.  The lady decided to drive down the road to get the mail when she was hit and killed by a semi-truck.  The husband received a call from a neighbor and rushed to the scene of the accident.  He held his wife one more time before the medical personnel arrived to take her away.

As for my family, we were recently reflecting on the life and death of my older sister who died at the age of 40 (three years ago).  Because of anger and unforgiveness, we had not seen my sister in over a year.  I felt so guilty when she died without me being able to see and hug her again.  Not being able to see my sister’s smile, hear her laughter, and feel her warm hugs is sometime difficult to deal with.  Who knows, by God’s grace I might see her again.

Why am I talking about family and death?  It’s that time year for families to come together and to be thankful for what God have blessed us with.

As Christians we do not have the right to abuse and neglect our family members.  It is our Christian duty to be like Jesus always, be the first to forgive, and reconcile stressed relationships asap.  Some families will always have dysfunctional family members who are difficult to deal with.  That is where God’s grace and patience comes into the picture.  Difficult people need family, love, and forgiveness too.

When it comes to difficult family members, we need to make sure we are always Christlike.  Being Christlike does not mean we have to give difficult people the right to abuse us.  Every family gathering needs to have guidelines and rules (some more than others).  If politics or religion ignite angry arguments, then everyone needs to know that talking about certain things are not allowed during family events.  Some families like to talk about the past and will often bring up hurtful memories.  If the family had a difficult history, it may be wise not to talk about the past.  Talking about the present and future can be fulfilling.  Most of all, finger-pointing and belittling should never be allowed.  When this type of abuse begins to take place, family members need to hold each other accountable to remind the finger-pointer not to point fingers, but to keep the conversation positive.

When to comes to family, we need to make sure we are connecting, reconciling, loving, and forgiving all the time.  You never know when a Thanksgiving may be the last Thanksgiving.  Take time to stay connected to your family throughout the year and get together as much as possible.  As you do so… please make sure Jesus is glorified at all times.


I love this video clip… enjoy!!!