Author: Ken Lytle
Satan uses many temptations to attack the human race.
Why is sex such a powerful temptation for so many people? “Put to death therefore what is earthly in you: sexual immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry” – Colossians 3:5.
As I consider my personal journey through life, I can see how enticing this temptation is. Sexual impurity is a combination of lust of the eyes and lust of the flesh. Satan took something beautiful and turned it into a driving wedge that comes between humans and their Creator and Savior.
Sex in the context of marriage is a good thing… it’s a God-thing. God created the human body to enjoy sex, mentally and physically. Sex can be an activity that brings a husband and wife even closer together.
The Apostle Paul clearly teaches that it is best for some people to remain single and focused on mission. He goes on to teach that if a person is not able to live a sex-less life, he or she should get married. “But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband” – 1 Corinthians 7:2.
If a man and woman chooses the marriage path, it is imperative that they nurture and develop the sexual relationship. Sex should never be used as a form of punishment and discipline in the marriage relationship. The Bible says, “Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control” – 1 Corinthians 7:5. Sex needs to be talked about freely between a husband and wife. Likes and dislikes should be discussed and both should be willing to let the sexual relationship to develop, grow, and change over time.
Professional counseling should be sought if the sexual relationship is dysfunctional and broken… ASAP. A dysfunctional sexual relationship can very easily lead to sexual impurity and adultery.
What does a healthy sex life look like? Besides talking and praying about it together… a healthy sex life will probably consist of physical intimacy taking place 1-3 times a week. The frequency depends the husband and wife. If the physical desires are not equal, a healthy compromise should be agreed on. Just remember what God said in 1 Cor. 7:5 about depriving one another and how it leads to temptation.
Most of all, “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her” – Ephesians 5:25. Husbands are to be servant leaders in the home. Husbands are not to demand emotional and physical love from their wives. They need to continue to date and love them until death do them part.
Note to wives: Please do not wait until your husbands are perfect before giving of yourselves mentally and physically… only God is perfect.
- LOVE
- FORGIVE
- LOVE
- GIVE
- LOVE
- BE KIND
- LOVE
- SPEND TIME TOGETHER
- LOVE ~ LOVE ~ LOVE
Frank Peacham
October 12, 2014
It appears that most cultures view adultery as wrong, with modifications. Roman men could use slave women as often as they wished, to Greek women adultery was forbidden, but not to men. According to Lewis and Clark Native Americans would sell their wives for a period of time for a trinket. To Christians marriage commitment is fundamental to the Gospel.