Christian Sex II

Posted on November 15, 2014



Author: Ken Lytle

Even though I grew up in the Adventist church, I don’t remember hearing about sex very much.  As kids in the church, we would giggle about anything sexual.  We would find sexual references in the Bible and giggle about that too.

Throughout my Adventist church and church school years, sex was never really discussed.  I do remember hearing that sex outside of marriage was wrong. Beyond that, there wasn’t much talk about sex.  As a young adult navigating an Adventist college, I experienced the temptations of premarital sex.  Even at this point in my spiritual growth, I still was not been exposed to a healthy discussion about sex.

I eventually got engaged and married and still no talk about sex.

It seems our church is afraid of talking about sex when it has a powerful influence over people and marriages.  Where do we begin when talking about sex?

1. Sex is a God-thing.  God created us male and female.  Something we don’t talk about is that God included in the creation of male and female genitalia the climax factor. We are wired to enjoy sex.  Sex is more than an act to procreate.  The physical enjoyment of sex creates a special bond between a husband and wife.

“Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh” – Genesis 2:24.

2. Once we have accepted that fact that sex is a God-thing, we can then begin to develop methods to teach our church members what healthy sex looks like.  This is where youth, men, and women ministries come into play.  These intimate settings are perfect for exploring, teaching, and mentoring others about healthy sex.  If we don’t teach and mentor in this area, the world will.  Our young people will go to the world for sex education instead of the church. Because this is happening, many marriages are dysfunctional and falling apart.

“But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband” – 1 Corinthians 7:2.

3. Start up a Family Ministry department in your local church to help develop a plan to provide healthy sex education.  This ministry should work hand-in-hand with the pastor and church board in developing discussions on this subject.

These are a few things we can do to address this important issue.  Satan is going around like a roaring lion, destroying people, relationships, and marriages using unhealthy sex and other sexual temptations.  It is time for our church leaders to boldly talk about healthy sex and how it can be used to strengthen marriages.